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sometimes, i think about stuff. even when i’m insanely busy, as my taking over LCE has had things for me lately. but i still have thoughts running through my head, man.

• life’s a lot less stressful when you avoid manipulative people. of course, not acting in a manipulative way yourself is implied. it’s just SO much easier when you say what you mean and mean what ya say, Sparky. Anything less is a big, fat waste of time.
• when you’re really pissed at somebody, you’re still highly emotionally engaged with them. in fact, you’re more engaged then than when you’re in a neutral state of mind, or even friendly, for that matter. anger takes a phenomenal amount of energy to maintain.
• you can be in a hurry. or not. but shit happens when it’s time for it to happen and not a second before. why waste energy being unhappy it’s not happening on an individually preferrable schedule? that energy is better used directed towards something you can have some impact on.
• people see whatever it is, no matter how big it is to you, when they’re damn well good and ready. if you ain’t ready to see it, doesn’t matter if it’s running over your life like a mack truck. you still won’t see it. and if you’re ready, it doesn’t matter if it’s flitting by like a hummingbird in heat. you’ll know.
  
• Some people only want to comfort your troubles, but not celebrate your successes. The opposite of fair-weather friends, these stormcloud-friends secretly get joy out of your troubles.  I dunno about you, but I consider that bad news. I like the energy of people who are pulling for me. Ya know?
• when you’re preparing to tell someone off, first stop and ask yourself, “What’s the point?” Because almost never can you realistically expect to change someone with a set of “magic words.” It’s not like Sue Dumbass, bane of your exisitance, will suddenly slap herself on the forhead and go, “Oh goodness! I’m sorry I was such a bitch.” It doesn’t make you feel better. It just keeps the crap stirred up. I find it’s virtually never helpful, from my observations and experience.
• it’s impossible to feel close to a liar.
• being nice is better.